BREAK FREE FROM THE PATTERNS THAT KEEP YOU FRUSTRATED & DISCONNECTED
Master the Art of Secure Connection
with Masculine Confidence, Deep Presence, and Real Intimacy — in Just 12 Weeks
Creating a deeply connected relationship doesn’t mean handing over your balls or becoming some soft, agreeable yes-man.
You’ll learn to lead with confidence, stay grounded when things get intense, and create the kind of intimacy that turns her on — emotionally, sexually, and relationally.
We don’t just talk about it. You’ll practice this every week — live, real, and in the room.
LET'S GET STARTED
This isn’t about changing who you are...
It’s about bringing out more of who you REALLY are. The you that gets blocked by fear. And also finally understanding the patterns that block real connection — so you can create the love, intimacy and freedom you’ve always wanted, without being someone different.
Go From Emotionally Shut Down to Confident, Connected, and In Control — In Just 12 Weeks
Breaking the Chains of Avoidance
I’m Ready to Shift ThisWhat You’ll Walk Away With
After 12 weeks, these are the transformations you'll embody — in your relationships, confidence, and connection.
- Stay calm in conflict and say what you actually mean — without shutting down or becoming a doormat.
- Know exactly what to say when she’s triggered — to calm the storm and keep connection alive.
- Build unshakable self-belief — and finally end the overthinking spiral.
- Develop your masculine core to lead — without collapsing or controlling.
- Turn emotional tension into sexual and emotional connection — without pressure, pretending, or performance.
“We now have emotional and sexual intimacy I didn’t think was possible.” – Josh, Artist - Repair fast when things go wrong — with words that rebuild trust, not tension.
“I learned to express what I actually need — and it changed my marriage, my friendships, everything.” – Phil, Therapist & Coach - Practice this weekly until it’s second nature — embodied, real, and yours for life.
This is for you if:
You don’t need fixing — but if any of this sounds familiar, you’re exactly who this was made for.
- You want deep intimacy — but the fear of losing yourself keeps you pulling away.
- You crave connection — but constantly question if it’s real or just your avoidant pattern.
- You want to feel free in love — not smothered or starved.
- You’re tired of overthinking every move — and just want to trust yourself again.
If you’re honest, this might feel familiar:
- You feel more comfortable being alone than risking emotional exposure or rejection.
- You pull away or shut down when someone gets close — and don’t fully understand why.
- You overthink every interaction, trying to protect yourself instead of feeling safe to just be.
- You’ve never had a relationship where you felt free, safe and truly seen at the same time.
You are not alone.
Many men come to this work thinking they’re the only ones who struggle with relationships, intimacy, or emotional connection.
But you’re not broken. You’re just stuck in patterns that no longer serve you.
Maybe you were never shown how to express your emotions healthily. Or maybe independence and logic were valued above vulnerability and connection.
Whatever your journey has been, this programme is here to help you feel seen, supported, and guided without judgement, shame, or pressure to "get it perfect".
So if you're ready to try a different way, one that's real, embodied, and built on connection, not performance, here's what we’ll work on together.
What women want from a man has changed.
The old rules — stay stoic, don’t need anyone, just provide — are killing connection. They don’t build love that lasts. They build loneliness.
Women want emotional depth. Presence. Clear communication. Deep intimacy. Leadership. Confidence.
They want a man who can meet them fully. Heart to heart, body to body. A man who can express love, handle conflict, and stay open when things get real.
Avoidant patterns block all of that. They keep you shut down, even when you want connection most.
The good news? You don’t need to become someone else. You just need to become the version of you who can actually have the relationship you want.
“I’ve stepped into leadership as a man. I now voice my needs, stand up for myself, and reach out to build and deepen relationships I care about — old and new. For the first time, I show up with self-respect and self-love. And in doing so, I’ve unlocked emotional blocks that have kept me from the deep connection I’ve craved my whole life.”
Learn the 5 Core Relationship Skills to Create Lasting Connection — In Dating or Long-Term Love
1. Awareness: Understanding Your Avoidant Patterns
Discover how childhood conditioning and relationship imprints shape your instinct to pull away. You’ll stop blaming yourself and start seeing your patterns clearly — so they lose power over you.
2. Feeling: Emotional Mastery & Nervous System Regulation
Learn how to feel without being overwhelmed. You’ll practice tools to stay grounded in intense moments, so you stop shutting down or flipping into fight-or-flight when things get real.
3. Communication : Vulnerability, Boundaries & Expressing What You Need
Drop the nice guy mask or lone wolf routine. You’ll discover how to express what’s true — and what you need — with strength and clarity. No more resentment, stonewalling, or passive-aggressive shutdowns.
4. Consistency: Rebuilding Trust & Creating Real Connection
Learn the exact words and tools to repair conflict, rebuild safety, and re-establish connection fast. You’ll stop avoiding tough conversations and start leading them — with clarity, care and direction.
5. Leadership: Leading Intimacy & Creating Passion Without Pressure
Shift from performance-based connection to embodied intimacy. You’ll learn how to lead emotionally and sexually — from a grounded, confident core — and create polarity that lasts.
Integrated Transformation
Here’s How You’ll Become the Man Who Leads With Calm, Confidence & Connection
This programme isn’t about memorising scripts or having the perfect thing to say. It’s about becoming the kind of man who leads love — with presence, confidence, and emotional clarity.
Because lasting change doesn’t come from information. It comes from embodiment (who you are being, not just what you do), structure, and support — consistently applied over time.
When your nervous system calms, your emotions shift. When your emotions shift, your reactions change. And when your reactions change, your thinking follows.
💻 Coaching, Modules & Live Practice (All Online)
12 live weekly Zoom coaching sessions (recorded & saved), taught by David. Includes access to the BTCA curriculum and bonus trainings for 9 months.
- Structured teaching and live practice
- Real-time coaching on your actual relationship struggles
- Come with questions — and get clarity fast
- Get unstuck with David’s direct support inside and between sessions
- Safe space to share wins, challenges, and breakthroughs
🛠️ Tools, Embodiment & Ongoing Support
Change the way your nervous system responds in the moments that matter most — by doing the work weekly, not just learning about it.
- Weekly embodiment practices to retrain default reactions
- Scripts and sentence-starters for conflict, intimacy, and repair
- Masculine emotional leadership tools to speak your needs clearly
- Listen to her in a way that helps you hear the feelings under the words
- Ask for help anytime between sessions — David is there to support you
🎁 Bonus Trainings, Community & Long-Term Access
Stay supported long after the calls end — with expert tools and an encouraging men’s group to keep you accountable and connected.
- 10+ bonus trainings on sex, polarity, emotions & more
- Online Dating Masterclass for men who are single
- Private community space for coaching, support and connection
- 9-month access to all sessions, practices, and recordings
- 5-Step Integration Training: Turn insight into lasting, embodied change
What Makes This Work When Nothing Else Has?
“What if it doesn’t work for me?”
This isn’t just theory It’s grounded practice. You’re coached live, guided through challenges, and supported to apply the tools in your real relationships, romatic and plantonic, every single week.
💬 “It’s changed my marriage, my friendships… everything.”Phil, Therapist & Coach
💬 “I used to disappear emotionally. Now I lead the connection.” — Josh, Artist
💬 “I’ve got less self-doubt and more self-belief. I can finally show up in dating as myself.” – Son, Men's Coach
“Is this worth the cost?”
The programme scored an average of 9/10 for value from past members. Men who hesitated because of the cost now say it was one of the best investments they’ve made.
💬“10/10 for value for money – Conor, Teacher
“Do I even need this?”
Many men didn’t think they needed support — until they experienced what it’s like to be seen, challenged and supported by others doing the work. The transformation comes from doing it together.
💬 “The group was the most unexpected and healing part. I didn’t think I needed it, but it ended up being everything.” Daniel, Multimedia Artist
“I’m scared to be vulnerable with strangers.”
That fear is real — and it's exactly why this works. Men consistently say this is the first space they’ve felt truly safe to open up, be heard without judgment, and connect on a deeper level than they imagined.
“I’ve done therapy and read books… will this be different?”
This isn’t just more insight. It’s embodied change — through live practice, nervous system work, and ongoing support. It’s not about learning more. It’s about becoming someone new.
“I’ve found a level of calm and presence I never knew I had. I now take every moment with more awareness and communicate with confidence. This group changed my life and how I show up in all my relationships. Plus, I got into an amazing healthy and deeply connected relationship during the programme thanks to everything David taught.”
Avoidant Men…
I created this 12-week journey for men like you and me —
men who are strong on the surface, but secretly disconnected, overwhelmed by emotion, or afraid of getting too close.
You’ve mastered independence. You know how to keep it together.
But closeness? Emotional depth? Real intimacy?
That’s where it gets messy. That's where the rubber meets the road.
This isn’t about fixing you.
You are not broken.
It’s about understanding yourself, rewiring your patterns, and building relationships where you feel seen, heard, and respected — without losing yourself in the process.
And most of all, bringing out more of you — minus the fear and the mental stories about relationships.
You’ll go from avoiding conflict and shutting down emotionally…
to becoming the kind of man who leads with calm presence,
speaks with grounded confidence,
and builds the kind of connections you used to think weren’t possible for you.
This work doesn’t just change your relationships.
It transforms your self-respect, your confidence, and how you show up in every area of your life.
What Other Men Are Saying About the Investment
This is an investment in your relationship life — and your future self. It’s not cheap — but it’s far less than the cost of staying stuck. Here’s what the men who’ve done it say about the value:
“It’s changed everything.”
Whether it’s dating, relationships, or inner peace — past members say the shift is profound.
💬 “It’s changed my marriage, my friendships… everything.” — Phil, Therapist & Coach
💬 “My partner said to me the other night, ‘the difference in you is night and day’.” — Luke, Assistant Clinical Psychologist
“I didn’t think I needed it...”
...until the group, the coaching, and the connection showed them otherwise.
💬 “The group was the most unexpected and healing part. I didn’t think I needed it, but it ended up being everything.” — Daniel, Multimedia Artist
💬 “I wanted to show my heart to brothers in arms.” — Luke, Assistant Clinical Psychologist
“Was it worth the money?”
BTCA received an average score of 9/10 for value. The results speak louder than the cost.
💬 “10/10 for value for money.” — Conor, Teacher
12 Live Coaching Calls
Led by David, recorded, with 9 months’ access
Full BTCA Curriculum
5 Core modules, access exclusive trainings, and 15 live practices
Tools & Scripts
Conflict repair, emotional expression, intimacy, inner critic
Direct Access to David
Ask questions, get guidance anytime
Weekly Practices
Journaling exercises, communication tools & dissolving negitive emotions. So change sticks, not slips
Private Men’s Community
Support, challenge, celebration
"Before I struggled to commit to women I was dating, I would pick faults with them and call it off before it got too serious — classic avoidant behaviour. Now, thanks to the programme, I’ve opened up, and I feel much more comfortable having deeper emotional conversations. As a result, I am now in a fantastic, communicative, and accepting relationship".
Results from being inside Breaking the Chains Of Avoidance
Josh – Artist
"I’ve reconnected with my ex — who’s now my partner again — and I’m showing up in a way I never could before."
Conor – Teacher
"I’m no longer afraid of emotion — I can communicate clearly and lead with presence."
Josh S – Software Developer
"I’ve silenced my inner critic and started showing up with more openness and self-compassion."
Phil A – Therapist & Coach
"It’s improved my marriage, my friendships — even how I lead at work. I know who I am now."
Son – Men’s Coach
"This gave me clarity, confidence and new language for showing up in love."
Wins from Breaking the Chains of Avoidance
ON THE FENCE ABOUT JOINING?
I offer a 100% risk-free promise
If you show up, do the work, and don’t feel a real shift in your ability to connect, express yourself, or build intimacy within 3 months — I’ll keep working with you until you do.
Because your transformation is non-negotiable for me.
Note: This is not a change-of-mind refund. I’ll know how much of the work you’ve done and how often you’ve shown up. If you commit, I commit — all the way.
Join Now
I’m David Chambers. A men’s relationship coach who struggled with avoidant attachment like you…
For years, I avoided commitment, shut down when things got close, and told myself deep love wasn’t possible for me.
I did the work. I faced my fears, learned to feel, and built real connection.
Now, I’m in a happy, committed relationship — deeply connected, open, and honest — and last year, we had our first son.
I help men break out of avoidance and build the kind of love and freedom they never thought possible.
If I can do it, so can you.
The 12-Week BTCA Journey
Starts 24 September · Weekly 2-Hour Calls · Live Every Wednesday 7–9pm (UK time) · Every Call is Recorded
Week 1 – Attachment & Avoidance
Understand how your attachment style formed, how it unconsciously plays out, and why it's not your fault — but it is your responsibility now.
Week 2 – Patterns, Triggers & Deleting Old Programming
Learn how to identify and interrupt avoidant patterns before they sabotage intimacy — so you can choose connection instead of shutdown.
Week 3 – Emotional Expression & Vulnerability
Develop emotional fluency, get comfortable being seen, and stop avoiding the very thing that builds trust and depth.
Week 4 – Fear, Freedom & Commitment
Dissolve the avoidant man’s biggest fears — losing autonomy, being engulfed, or choosing the wrong person — and reclaim your freedom in love.
Week 5 – Foundations of Emotional Intimacy
Learn the 6 types of intimacy, how to cultivate them, and why emotional depth is the foundation of healthy passion.
Week 6 – Trust, Safety & The Three Pillars of Connection
Repair ruptures, build lasting safety, and lead with the three pillars that create deep, lasting connection — for her and for you.
Week 7 – Conflict, Communication & Repair
Master compassionate communication, boundary-setting, and repair tools so that conflict becomes connection, not collapse.
Week 8 – Defensiveness & Emotional Reactivity
Turn defensiveness into openness and reactivity into grounded leadership — even when triggered or challenged.
Week 9 – Meeting the Inner Critic
Transform self-judgment into self-acceptance — and learn to show up with confidence, not perfectionism.
Week 10 – Embodied Relationship Leadership
Step into your authentic masculine leadership — emotionally, energetically and relationally — without control or collapse.
Week 11 – Sexual Leadership
Lead intimacy without pressure, awkwardness or performance. Learn the tools to create polarity that lasts.
Week 12 – Recap & Celebration
Integrate the work, reflect on your journey, and celebrate the man you’ve become — with your brothers beside you.
Bonus Trainings & Practice Vault (£900+ value)
- Online Dating Masterclass (£197 value)
- "Is She the One?" Workshop (£97 value)
- Creating the Spark Masterclass (£97 value)
- Practices for Fear, Stress & Negative Beliefs (£97 value)
- Workshops on Sexual Energy, Polarity, and Masculine Embodiment (£97 value)
- Tantra for Couples Masterclass (£97 value)
- Tantra for Singles Masterclass (£97 value)
- Being Authentically Attractive Workshop (£97 value)
- Couples & Passion Practices (£47 value)
- Inner Critic Meditation (£47 value)
- And more bonus trainings to go deeper
Frequently Asked Questions
1. What if I’ve done a bunch of self-work already — will this still help?
Yes. This is for men who’ve read the books, done the therapy, taken the courses — and still find themselves stuck in the same patterns. BTCA helps you embody what you already know, not just intellectualise it.
2. Can I join if I'm currently going through something heavy or personal?
Absolutely. This program is designed to hold men through real-life challenges — not just theory. Many men join while navigating breakups, relationship struggles, or periods of major transition. You don’t need to “have it all together” to start.
3. When are the calls — and do I have to attend all of them?
Calls happen every Wednesday from 7–9pm UK time. Live attendance creates the deepest shifts, but every call is recorded. You’ll also have space to ask questions in between — so you’ll never fall behind.
4. What if I miss a call or fall behind?
No problem. All calls are recorded, and you’ll get access to a private members area where you can catch up at your own pace. There’s also support between calls to help you integrate what you missed.
5. Is this just a bunch of guys talking about feelings?
No. While emotional fluency is part of the work, BTCA gives you tools, structure and leadership training. You’ll learn to take responsibility for your patterns, lead through hard conversations, and create real connection — in dating or long-term love.
6. What if I sign up and something big changes — can I drop out?
Spots are limited and the work builds week to week — so we ask for full commitment. That said, if something serious happens, we’ll work with you to find a solution. If you're unsure, book a call and we’ll help you decide.
7. Will I have to share personal stuff in front of the group?
Only what you’re ready for. Most men feel nervous at first — but quickly realise how safe, supportive and real the space is. You’ll never be pressured to overshare — but you’ll be surprised by how naturally you open up.
Enrollment Closes Soon — And Spots Are Limited
Breaking the Chains of Avoidance begins 24 September — and only 20 men will be accepted.
If you miss this round, the next won’t open for at least 6 months.
Can your relationship or your own peace of mind wait that long?
This isn’t a self-paced course. It’s live, guided, and space is intentionally limited for depth and support.
You're Not Broken — And You’re Not Alone
You’ve already done the hardest part: realising the way you’ve been doing relationships isn’t working anymore. Now, the only question is — are you willing to lead your change?
This isn’t a magic fix. But it is a proven path. A container where real change happens. And a brotherhood where you won’t walk it alone.
If that version of you — the one who leads in love instead of pulling away — is ready to emerge… then this is your next step.
– David
Still Not Sure?
Sometimes all it takes is a 20-minute call to know if this is right for you. Let’s talk it through — no pressure, no sales pitch.
Book a Clarity Call